This was M’s most used phrase aged 18 months. It’s been usurped a bit by “me now” and “me want that” but you get the drift. No different to most toddlers I know (hope).
Recently my three year old T has been pioneering the phrase “You do it; it’s your job” when asked to tidy toys etc. It’s bound to catch on – it’s so catchy. My shock and horror doesn’t seem to have the desired effect. Shock and horror rarely do I guess.
Well this morning I had what I hope it is an epiphany. They learn most from copying but perhaps the copying isn’t always as you’d hope or expect.
Maybe they’re learning as much from my second class approach to my needs as they are from my kindness and consideration towards them. Maybe I am in danger of martyr motherhood? Am I carving out a niche I don’t want? What’s cute aged 3 may really hack me off at 13???
As I pondered this I sat down and enjoyed my breakfast slowly. Despite the mess. Despite the jobs. On the way back from playgroup I got myself some new makeup (rather than some different shaped pasta for them – for them to cry and scream at when I cook it obviously). I told them I was having a treat. Apparently they were too but there wasn’t one. To be fair they didn’t push. They were too gobsmacked. What did Mummy need with a treat? I thought she was a machine?
And this afternoon I will try and use the phrase “Hang on a minute I am just enjoying talking to Jo” at least three times. Assuming Jo brings her little boy round as planned, otherwise it’ll just be weird.
T was really confused by the chilling with my breakfast thing. So much so I thought I must do this every Thursday. Every Thursday?!? Get a grip. We make sure our little ones’ needs are met every day and quite right too (as I type mine are munching their sandwiches / napping while I push them home post playgroup with their friends) but we must make time for us as well. They need to see your needs are important and looking after yourself is probably the best way of showing them.
They’ll always be more mess, more noise…and of course more smiles and laughs. So while it’s all going on make some time for you. Don’t wait until they’re all in bed. I’m a bit slow to catch on, sensible people probably already do this? How many times a day I wonder?…is three the magic number? Or should it be more…ooooh exciting and it is all for their emotional development and of course ME!